Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Mike Wang - how you can help

As many of you know, I work for PATH and you may also know now that we lost a colleague and friend two weeks ago in a horrible hit-and-run accident on Dexter and Thomas. The police are still in search of the driver of the vehicle that hit Mike Wang on his bicycle. To that end, I have been trying to do my part, as small as it feels in this horrific time, to get the word out in the community on the search as well as communicate ways to support Mike's family in this tragic time.  It dawned on me last night that while I've contacted several blogs and publications that I didn't even think to add it to my most accessible place: here.  While I have no way of identifying my readers, I suspect that a large majority either reside in locales other than Seattle, and those who do live here are most likely already aware of this information. But, it certainly doesn't hurt to do so anyway.

On July 28th, on his way home from PATH, riding his bicycle to his home in Shoreline as he did most days, Mike was struck and killed just 1 block into his ride.  The driver stopped only for a second before speeding away; he or she has yet be to be found.  The latest description of the vehicle is: a mid-1990s to 2000, beige to brown American-made SUV, possibly with tinted windows and a silver luggage rack.

Colleagues of Mike’s have been actively working on ways to support both Mike’s family and the search for the driver.  There has been a fund set up for co-workers, friends, and members of the community to donate funds to help his family in these immediate days, weeks, and months following his death (he was the sole income earner for 4 dependents).  A PayPal account has also been set up for easy online donations.  On the Send Money page of PayPal, donors can address payments to: mikewang.memorial@yahoo.com.  I encourage anyone who can spare even $10 to donate.  Every little bit in these situations make a difference.
 
My heart goes out to Mike's family and close friends. While I didn't know Mike well, I did find him to be a much appreciated constant in the daily life at PATH.  I also am increasingly aware of the impact he had on a large number of people's lives, either through his helpfulness on sometimes random needs of coworkers or through his unmatched talent behind a camera.  PATH will never be the same without him.

More information on the accident can be found here.  I also encourage you to read about Mike and the legacy he leaves at PATH (and beyond) here.   

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

confirmation and elaboration

my whole life i've been empathic. extremely so. almost to a fault at times. many have told me that sometimes when i look into their eyes they feel as though i can see things deep inside them, things that they are not saying, things they have kept hidden from most. some have told me that the first time they felt it that it made them shiver, sometimes shudder. i rarely offer a confirmation or elaboration on what the professors of this feeling are describing. while i cannot deny completely the feeling that they sense, it is not quite as they suspect. i do not see images, i do not hear voices - i am not a clairvoyant in disguise. i am not extracting their deepest darkest secrets. its different than that. what they sense is more like an inhalation of emotion. a simple transfer that lasts only a split second.

but for you tonight, as someone who recognized this feeling again recently, i will offer the rare confirmation and elaboration: behind your eyes, i do see your pain. i've seen it before; never this present, never this raw, but i have caught a glimpse of it once or twice in our continuum. then, it was only during deeper, more intense gazes and mostly took me by surprise as i was not aware of the cause of its existence. this time, however, it is expected and this time i understand it. this time when i see it i feel it more strongly than i have ever felt it. this time with just one shallow glance, something much thicker than ever before washes over me slowly and yet suddenly at the same time. what i can't help but wonder - no, what i can't help but hope - is that during that moment of transfer, that moment of inhalation, you are granted a moment of reprieve from your pain. a moment when your ache doesn't necessarily disappear (as i cannot do that for you - not in this situation, not in any situation), but gently lifts itself ever so slightly, allowing you to breathe a little more freely and deeply for that one moment.