Ladies! And The One...

Among my girlfriends there seems to be a common trend - There Are No Men... But, yet, I must ask: Are you sure its that men are missing? Listening to our discussions, I can't help laugh at the irony. When it comes down to it, Men are there. They are just not the the ones that you want to be with. In order to find him, apparently you must weed through the following:

The one you don't want to be with but wants to be with you.
The one you once were with, but for some reason aren't now.
The one that's javascript:void(0)perfect... and perfectly unavailable.
The one you wish you could love but just don't.
The one you use to get by.
The one that uses you to get by.
The one you will always be enamored with, but never do anything about.
The one you are ashamed of.
The one you are flattered by.
The one that appeared at the wrong time and dissappeared at the right time.
The one that makes you laugh so much, but also makes you cry too much.
The one that looks like a 10 through the end of a wine glass.
The one you know you shouldn't be with, but can't help it and are.

And the list goes on. However, those we can all get over. But there's ONE we can't, for some reason. And that is: The one you want to be with but just doesn't want to be with you. Why is that? I talk to women everyday with the same story, working to get the same thing. All of them hoping He will notice her, or He will change his mind, or He will call, or He will ask her out, or He will profess his love. And all of them are trying to be so careful in there moves in order to get these things.

Why, I ask. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't call? Who doesn't say I love you? Who doesn't notice you? Who you feel you need to be so careful with? Ladies - we must stop this! We must brush this category off with the others, stop getting hung up on this ONE.

Ultimately, we do NOT want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with us. We really don't. I guarantee it. Don't be blinded by society's notions of The Chase. Yes, the chase is real, and its fun, and at times necessary. But at a point, its a ghost of an excuse. He's not going to change his mind, and if he does - you shouldn't be there waiting for it. Free yourself from that - liberate your time, your emotions, and your will. Do it and you just might find exactly what you are looking for.

With that said... you'll have to excuse me; one of my ONEs called - I am meeting him for a drink....